What Men Want! (For Women Only)

Not all women "love" performing fellatio; however, if you are one of those women, do your best to move past this roadblock to satisfying sex.

Most women can become extremely competent at this sexual skill. If you are NOT one of those women, you would be wise to learn this most delicious way of pleasuring your partner.

Men love to receive oral gratification and they strongly appreciate a woman who can bring them to intense orgasms in this way. Receiving oral sex is high on the list of most men.

Take a shower together, then make love to him using only your mouth, your tongue and your fingers.

Begin by exploring his body with your hands as you passionately kiss him. Then, with your mouth, very slowly follow an irregular and purposeful path all over his body, kissing his breasts, first one and then the other, until you reach his pleasure zone.

In time he will begin to be further moistened by tiny drops of his oozing fluids. Don't stop.

Have little concern for applying too much pressure with your hands while you apply gentle kisses to his penis. Ask him to let you know what feels good. Focus all of your energy on giving him the gift of the talents of your tongue.

Many women find the scent of semen sexually stimulating. Not all women enjoy the taste of semen. Some savor it like a delicacy. There is nothing in an ejaculation that is in any way harmful to swallow.

The seminal odor that appears on your breath is quite sensual, erotic and can awaken and inspire your lover to further activity.

Be sure you let your man know how you feel about fellatio.

It is okay to ask him to let you know when he is ready to come. Real men honor their partner's request. If you don't swallow, finish him off with a skillful hand job. When he's that close to going over the edge, he most likely won't even notice.

Put some action in your lovemaking, a wiggle here, a wiggle there. Be alive. Move around.

A man needs to know you are more than willing. Touch him. Bathe him with your kisses. Make love to HIM.

If you don't know what he likes. . . ask him or take the initiative and see if you can really turn him on!

Another alternative. . . What can you do when he desires sex more often than you do? Will you forever be sexually out of sync? Not necessarily.

Ask yourself how often you can make love "just for him" without becoming resentful or becoming uninterested.

There are two kinds of orgasm for a man: one is for pure pleasure and the other is basically for stress release. A quickie is okay now and then, but many men would settle for a hand job.

To a man, it is very erotic and sexually stimulating for his lover to give him an orgasm.

Here are a few tips. Having lubricant handy is a must. A satisfying experience for a man involves the right amount of friction and pressure. Most men agree that harder is better. Nice and easy for you. Rough and tumble for him!

When a man is ready to come, he wants to come. That is the reason for the rapid thrusting during the last few moments of intercourse. Feeling pressure to have sex can decrease intimacy.

Masturbation is a healthy alternative to having sex with your partner when you really don't want to make love. He loves that too!

This may come as a shock, but nearly all men continue to mastrubate even after marriage. Ask him to show you what feels good and how to do it.

So, to sum it up, men love blowjobs and handjobs as well as intercourse. Are you up for that?

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Copyright © 2002 - Larry James. Reprinted with permission. - This article is adapted from Larry's books, "How to Really Love the One You're With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship," "LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing" and "Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers." Author Larry James presents seminars nationally for singles and couples. Subscribe to Larry's FREE monthly "LoveNotes for Lovers" eZINE. Contact: CelebrateIntimacy.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. LarryJames@CelebrateIntimacy.com - CelebrateIntimacy.com