Going Down, Please! (For Men Only)

Not all men "love" performing cunnilingus.

If you are one of those men, get over it!

Most men can learn to be extremely competent at this sexual skill. If you are not, you must learn this most delicious way of pleasuring your love partner.

Almost universally, women love to receive oral gratification and they strongly appreciate a man who can bring them to intense orgasms in this way and love doing it.

She must trust you explicitly to allow you to visit the her pleasure points between her legs.

Take a shower together, then make love to her using only your mouth, your tongue and your fingers.

Begin with a lingering, passionate kiss on her lips. Then very slowly follow an irregular and purposeful path all over her body; kissing her breasts, first one and then the other, returning to kiss her lips, then head south until you reach the target zone.

Approach this area very slowly. Most women love to be teased. Don't rush. Take your time. Enjoy yourself while you pleasure her.

The inner part of her thigh is her most tender spot. Kiss it. Create anticipation. Bathe it with your tongue, make designs on it. Come close, then move away. Tease her. Nestle her pubic hair.

Gently touch her there with wet fingers. The best lubricant is saliva.

Slowly spread her legs wider with your hands. Focus all of your energy on giving her the gift of the talents of your tongue.

Gently, and as she becomes more aroused, pull back the folds of her skin and kiss her, softly, then harder. Make love to her with your mouth and your tongue.

Go with her. If she lifts her body toward you or moves away with the tension of her rising orgasm, move with her. Keep your hot mouth upon her.

This kiss deserves more than just lip service. Practice hands-on love; let your fingers say, "I love you" without words. It doubles her pleasure. Massage. Titilate her G-spot.

Don't stop until she gives you a signal. Most men often stop too soon. Women plummet back to square one if you do. Hang in there for the duration.

A woman can stay excited for up to a full hour after she's had an orgasm. Caution: Beware of instant replays. You must be respectful of her need to have time and space between each orgasm if she wants you to continue.

After orgasm, her clitoris feels tender. Let her tell you when to begin again, slow down, speed up, be more gentle, or apply more pressure.

This is the forbidden kiss she will treasure!

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Copyright © 2002 - Larry James. Reprinted with permission. - This article is adapted from Larry's books, "How to Really Love the One You're With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship," "LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing" and "Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers." Author Larry James presents seminars nationally for singles and couples. Subscribe to Larry's FREE monthly "LoveNotes for Lovers" eZINE. Contact: CelebrateIntimacy.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. LarryJames@CelebrateIntimacy.com - CelebrateIntimacy.com