"I
love you; you love me; we're a happy family …." Do you
remember that song from childhood? You may even recognize it as
the popular song Barney sings. Through music we explore and learn
about myths, ideals, and the parameters of love.
With
each year, our understanding of what we hear and feel in music deepens,
especially as we begin to experience love. We hear thoughts similar
to ours being sung on the radio. We listen with curiosity and hope
of happy endings or perhaps guidance to help us. We learn that music
intensifies our feelings, triggers emotions, and binds memories
forever to songs that are associated with our love lives. We learn
that music is our friend and our teacher. Because of this, music
has attained a central importance in the world of romance and romantic
relationships.
Musical
Inspiration
Music
can inspire or influence romance in so many ways. It's hard for
music not to inspire; it stirs the emotions when singers sing about
love's emotional extremes. When you hear a song that says, "I'm
in the mood for love simply because you're near me," it's hard
to resist having an emotional reaction to what you hear. Music facilitates
romance between you and your partner by moving both the intellect
and emotions.
Music:
A Course in Love
Now
that you know how music can naturally foster romance, the following
tips will help you to use music in your own relationship to increase
romance between you and your partner:
- If
you are out and about doing something with your partner and you
hear your partner say, "Wow, I love that song," don't
just let the moment pass. Find out what the song is and buy it.
Add it to your romantic collection.
- If
you attend a Broadway show or a romantic film that moves you emotionally,
buy the soundtrack. This way, you'll be able to bring back the
intense emotions you experienced again and again with your partner.
- Jump
at the chance to dance together when music moves you.
- Going
to concerts-especially by singers well known for romantic ballads-can
put you in the middle of emotional moments that are bigger than
life.
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Nancy Fagan, M.S., author of “The Complete Idiot’s Guide to
Romance” and “Desirable Men: How to Find Them.” To read
more, visit www.ExpertLoveAdvice.com.
