Not Tonight, Dear! (For Women Only)

Making love is very important to a man. It makes him feel wanted.

If you do not feel like making love, it is okay to say "no" to sex, but make sure you say "yes" to loving him. Sex is acceptance for a man. It is a primal urge.

When he suggests sexual intimacy, it is important for you to receive him in some way whether you choose to make love with him or not. Men do not take sexual rejection very well.

Hold him close. Let him know you will make love another time, but right now you only want to feel him close to you.

A man will often have a tough time accepting that it is not HIM you are rejecting. It is important for you to know this.

Demonstrate your love and affection for him in other ways to reassure him. Both of you may take sexual rejection personally when it is a reflection of some tension between the two of you.

Men also love women who love to make love. If you enjoy having sex with him, this is the moment he needs to hear it.

P.S. - Have you heard about the new product, Sexcedrin? It's a bedroom aerosol spray. More effective than Excedrin® in treating the, "Not tonight, dear, I have a headache," syndrome.  ;-)

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Copyright © 2002 - Larry James. Reprinted with permission. - This article is adapted from Larry's books, "How to Really Love the One You're With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship," "LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing" and "Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers." Author Larry James presents seminars nationally for singles and couples. Subscribe to Larry's FREE monthly "LoveNotes for Lovers" eZINE. Contact: CelebrateIntimacy.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. LarryJames@CelebrateIntimacy.com - CelebrateIntimacy.com