Fairy tales have become a part of our image of what romance is supposed
to be like. This image not only deceives women, but also men. One of the
definitions of the term "fairy tale" in Webster's is "a
made-up story, usually designed to mislead."
On one hand, everyone knows that fairy-tale romances are make-believe.
On the other hand, fairy tales inspire us to believe in happy love stories.
For this fact alone, they have given us something we need for building
our own love affair: hope. Many people have lost hope, and it's time to
get it back.
Modeling Love on Fairy-Tales
Some people think that fairy tales create a false image for a real partner
to live up to. The next time you read a fairy tale about a love affair,
look to see the characteristics that form the foundation of these stories.
What you will find are characteristics such as the following:
- Looking for unconditional love
- Wanting to be loved by someone
- Seeking understanding
- Looking to be accepted by another
These stories also show that life is happier with someone as opposed
to being without someone. What they show is the humanness in having a
mate. People innately gravitate to others for a sense of completeness.
We are relational beings, with a need to relate to others. In a fairy
tale, these themes are conveyed simply in a fantastical setting. In fact,
fairy tales serve as wonderful models to use when deciding on what you
want in your relationship.
Regaining a Belief in Fairy-Tales
How can we make romance just as magical as it is in the fairy tales? All
you have to do is create your own love story, the greatest love story
ever known. This means cherishing the one you love as though he were a
prince or she were a princess. It means making your relationship a priority
by including romance as one of its basic ingredients. An apple a day may
keep the doctor away, but a kiss a day keeps others away.
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Nancy Fagan, M.S., author of “The Complete Idiot’s Guide to
Romance” and “Desirable Men: How to Find Them.” To read
more, visit www.ExpertLoveAdvice.com.
