Do's are what enhances relationships. Don'ts are what kill relationships.
Our surrounding is made up of different people from different backgrounds.
Our upbringing, past dating and relationship experiences, etc. all mold
our thinking. Even the consequences from our own relationship choices
may mold our thinking. As a result, you may develop positive or negatives
characteristics from your past relationship experiences. Hence the experiences
will become characteristics you will take into the next relationship.
So in effect, whether your relationships is going to work or not is predetermined.
It all depends on the characteristics you choose to take with you into
your relationship. I say this for several reasons. One reason is all human
being are capable of changing. As an adult you have a choice in what characteristic
you wish to sustain. It is safe to say how you treat your relationship
is a choice you make.
Assuming your last relationship was a bad experience; learn not to take
that experience into your next relationship. There is a good reason for
that. If you want to find that special someone, it is best to introduce
positive characteristics into your dating practices. Here is why. The
human heart does several things. One of the things it does is it acts
as your guide. Your heart, believe it or not is your compass if you wish
to be lead to your soulmate.
Some relationship experts refer to the heart as spirit, inner guide,
conscience and so forth. The true mission of your conscience is to direct
and teach truth. When you endeavor to doing things that are right you
are in effect following your conscience dictates. Characteristics and
habits of those who follow directions from their conscience to acquire
meaningful relationships are such as: integrity, harmony, temperance,
patience, thankfulness, honesty, joy, love, goodness, forgiveness, humility,
respect, trust, understanding etc. I call these characteristics Do's of
relationships. They are qualities that enhance love between man and woman.
These qualities predetermine how you will treat your lover. Further more
your characteristics also tell your love interest what kind of man or
woman you are. Those who are authorities in relationships discovered the
collapse of most relationships and marriages are attributed to selfishness.
For example, the very moment you decide to enter a relationship just for
what you want, you have pre-programmed the relationship to fail. Why?
Because your intention is not about sharing your heart with another person
but to get what you want. Try and have a relationship that is not me,
me, me relationship. This way you will have a greater chance of succeeding.
What I am sharing with you has been researched and proven to be one of
the best ways to find your Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Relationships are about two people. Take into consideration your partners
feelings as well as yours. When you decide to enter a relationship with
positive characteristics you have pre-programmed your relationship to
work. Consider the words that represent positive characteristics. Do you
notice how they also represent real love? Real love is absolutely needed
in relationships. It helps prevent you from emotionally injuring your
partner. The best part of it is you will not create a person who becomes
male or female basher in case the relationship turns out to be temporal.
Fact, if you follow your conscience or inner guide you will be directed
away from sparking a dead end relationship. You will be directed to find
your soulmate. Human beings were not created to be alone. Neither are
we here to have failed relationships. In case you are asking your self,
what if I go into a relationship with positive qualities and it does not
work? The answer to that is simple. Remember relationships take two people.
You may have good intentions before interring a relationship but your
love interest may not. In the event that you missed the directions from
your conscience, it is okay. Remember this saying? If at first you don't
succeed try again. When you try something and it does not work, there
is the likelihood that next time you will use a different approach. Changing
you approach actually puts you in a better position to succeed next time
around provided you do not become discourage by giving up. It is very
critical you use methods that are proven to work. Finding that special
someone or your soulmate is actually easier than you thought. I can assure
you of that. There are fact base and proven methods you can use to find
your soulmate. Never ever allow your self to be part of those who claim
finding a perfect companion is hard. They are people who have given up
and want you to become a quitter just like them. Create a mindset that
attracts success. Negative thoughts and discouragement leads to failure.
Positive thinking attracts success.
Negative characteristics are such as: vindictiveness, discord, contention,
dishonesty, pride, hate, faultfinding, envy, gossip, disrespect, lies,
unforgiving, impatience, discouragement, selfishness etc. These negatives
characteristics are what I call Don'ts of relationships. They are relationship
and marriage killers. They put strain on your relationship and love life.
If you are serious about finding that special someone listen and follow
your inner guide. Avoid taking negative characteristics into relationship.
As a writer and relationship advisor, I try to help my readers by providing
free advice on my Website. The site also contains the most powerful relationship
secrets ever revealed in an e-book. Depending on researched and proven
facts will help you find that special someone. Even bringing out the best
in your dates contribute to helping you succeed. Improve your chances
of success by adopting and introduce characteristics that will help enhance
your relationship.
To get started, I suggest drawing a straight line on a piece of paper.
Above the line you may list the positive words at the beginning of this
article. Bellow the line list the negative words that represents negative
characteristics. You may choose to include your own words if needed. Now
transform the words into action in your mind. Pretend there are two people
on either side of you. One is treating you in a matter that represents
the words above the line. The second person is treating you in ways that
represent the words bellow the line. Assess your feelings as to how you
are being treated the two imaginary people. Eliminate the negative words
from your mind. From then on try and follow your inner guide accompanied
by the positive words that illustrates positive characteristics. Use it
to enhance your relationship, love life or dating habits. Remember if
you want relationship that works, if you want to find your soulmate, you
must make choices that will lead you to what you are looking for. Your
choice of thoughts and actions will achieve their appropriate results.
Good luck.
Ernest Quansah is a writer and expert relationship advisor, specializing
in helping singles and couples improve their relationships to achieve
emotional and physical fulfillment. He is the author of online ebook "HOW
TO IDENTIFY YOUR SOULMATE", and can be reached at E- MAIL ADDRESS or http://www.soulmateinfoserve.com.
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